Suppression forces hypocrisy. Tolerance means that one day you will flare up. Over-optimism is an act of self-deceiving. Looking like you don't care don't REALLY mean you don't care. Being nice does not mean that you can ignore. Time doesn't mean obligations. Obligations doesn't mean willingness. Willingness doesn't mean interested. Easily adapting to new circumstances and situations doesn't mean one will be happy. It is not easy trying to deal with the feeling of having something ripped off from your life. BUT People can act really well, you know?